There are 2 types of people in the world:
Good people. Some good people may be misguided, but most are well meaning and well intentioned. However, the road to Hell is paved with good intentions…
Narcissists. Narcissists are not good people. Narcissists are good at fooling misguided (dependant and co-dependent) people into believing that they are good people, but be under no illusion, narcissists are not good people.
Evil is the creation of suffering for its own sake.
Dr Jordan B. Peterson
There are 5 different human archetypes:
Dependent – This is the child state. A child does not have the tools to become fully responsible for their own Being. They are dependent on a parent or a guardian for their survival. Sometimes this archetype does not end with physical maturation, presenting as an adult child. A welfare state culture creates dependent people who are incapable of Being independent.
Independent – Once a child has received the relevant knowledge and wisdom that they require in order to survive independently in the world, that dependent child becomes an adult and can function independently on their own, meeting their own needs and wants in a healthy way.
Inter-dependent – This is technically not a character archetype but a way of two healthy, independent adults interacting with one another to create mutually beneficial outcomes through character traits such as respect, active communication, and clearly defined boundaries. Free market economies flourish through inter-dependent trade agreements.
Co-dependent – This is where an adult is incapable of Being an adult, and thus remains in a childlike state of dependency on “an-other”. Many humans presently present themselves as this archetype, but it is mostly unconscious, meaning that they do not know that they are co-dependent.
“Other” can be interpreted to mean anything outside of the self. e.g. a romantic partner, a child, a parent, technology, social media, medication (drugs), trauma (control dramas), work, almost anything that distracts the individual from their authentic self (“i AM”. I EXiST.).
Co-dependency prevents sufferers from Being responsible, independent and autonomous adults.
A co-dependent is incapable of fully realising their own needs and wants, and very often they are incapable of knowing what these are. This is why they continually look outside themselves for serenity.Narcissist – The narcissist will prey on the week (dependent) and vulnerable (co-dependent) and enslave them to serve their will. They are fundamentally flawed human Beings, who in most cases, will never except that they are at fault, or need to change. In the mind of a narcissist they are perfect, and everyone else must surrender to their will.
A co-dependent has an extremely wide scale. A co-dependent can be a dependent adult in a childlike state (submissive), or appear to be behaving like a narcissist, in a very controlling (dominant) state.
…insanity: doing the same thing over and over again, each time expecting a different result…
Albert Einstein
A co-dependent relationship requires two co-dependents. Co-dependents will always seek out another co-dependent as a friend or mate. Co-dependents will repeat the same unresolved “control dramas” over and over again, each time expecting a different result, which is a commonly understood definition for insanity.
The thing about crazy people is, they don’t know they’re crazy. That’s what makes them crazy…
Jim Jefferies
Co-dependency will not end until one or both co-dependents “wake up” and realise that they need help in order to break the cycle of suffering. Because most people suffer from some form of co-dependency, most people are currently insane.
I’m sorry, kiddo. I really am. You have a good soul. And I hate giving good people bad news.
The Oracle
A narcissist will use all tactics available to them in order to achieve their desired result, which is to isolate their prey from others, so that they become entirely helpless, and fully dependent on the narcissist for their every need. A narcissist will not work to grow their relationships past a certain point, and once they have their prey, they will slowly work to deskill their victim(s), thus reaffirming the dependency of the prey on the Narcissist.
You will typically never see a narcissist, because they will morph their personality (alter-ego) to adapt to each person and situation, and appear charming, helpful, willing, and attractive. This is all an act that requires a huge amount of energy, so they work to isolate their victim(s), thus only needing to appear charming on rare occasions.
A narcissist creates suffering for their own sake which, by Dr Jordan B. Peter’s definition, is evil.